
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,117Please respect copyright.PENANAJChgftadSD
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,117Please respect copyright.PENANAouGRzhRCbA
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。117Please respect copyright.PENANAbYzBgnGriM
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,117Please respect copyright.PENANAfay7dNPnY2
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,117Please respect copyright.PENANAM6yhdAeB2z
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,117Please respect copyright.PENANAQU1oZHWMb2
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。117Please respect copyright.PENANAeNYhBIkva8
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,117Please respect copyright.PENANA4gy3HakkBD
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。117Please respect copyright.PENANAPnXeAWFGzx
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。117Please respect copyright.PENANA5qttiRQ1gS
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那隻驢子本來不用死,117Please respect copyright.PENANAQf89mvRxlo
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。117Please respect copyright.PENANAHms7em01S7
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,117Please respect copyright.PENANAlaMWgzBb4k
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,117Please respect copyright.PENANAAshipIzpfQ
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,117Please respect copyright.PENANAmTCjl8dAKm
以免自取其辱。117Please respect copyright.PENANAQNZa8xK8VI
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,117Please respect copyright.PENANAxzeXQ6u2Bj
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,117Please respect copyright.PENANA2prNDkqzSb
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,117Please respect copyright.PENANAOkBdzoJwMw
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。117Please respect copyright.PENANARyOLYzV3fN
就算不是萍水相逢,117Please respect copyright.PENANAzt4oXAM1Y9
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,117Please respect copyright.PENANAluOg0vEc4F
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。117Please respect copyright.PENANADxjHQ6MsWn
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,117Please respect copyright.PENANASqe2pwwAWD
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。117Please respect copyright.PENANAmUmO3d43V7
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,117Please respect copyright.PENANAYAR4MzQMhT
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,117Please respect copyright.PENANAZyO7SFlhse
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,117Please respect copyright.PENANAlIU4A45Eu9
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,117Please respect copyright.PENANAvEEqKkWEOf
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。117Please respect copyright.PENANAFuST9sJqIy
其實,117Please respect copyright.PENANAi7nMT1Kfja
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,117Please respect copyright.PENANAoNJRhaOd6q
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。117Please respect copyright.PENANAPSf7rFdVDl
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,117Please respect copyright.PENANAiPFWs8ZN5R
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,117Please respect copyright.PENANAfzxCquvXrE
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,117Please respect copyright.PENANADa2JcMckTv
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,117Please respect copyright.PENANAs6sI46HcKj
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,117Please respect copyright.PENANAidYK4UVUQi
即是「第一印象」,117Please respect copyright.PENANA2JF7kQVgXa
這些教導大家都會說得到。117Please respect copyright.PENANAE35HmGDY72
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但不約而同地,117Please respect copyright.PENANAd8QooMN5YD
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,117Please respect copyright.PENANAfHnCjbjy9Z
不主動提及就視為不存在。117Please respect copyright.PENANAXGpzTe9hFy
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,117Please respect copyright.PENANA8E4crLY8Bg
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?117Please respect copyright.PENANAbCdUzDQiQM
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,117Please respect copyright.PENANAiLRLBIm4mL
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,117Please respect copyright.PENANA4zjOiIU2u1
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。117Please respect copyright.PENANA9rtWu0cmit
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,117Please respect copyright.PENANAJwezxg4JLW
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,117Please respect copyright.PENANA6hDOlaLTGl
這不是我胡亂杜撰。117Please respect copyright.PENANAnN1WuH2ElC
如此的話,117Please respect copyright.PENANAJBXUdcT0Ex
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?117Please respect copyright.PENANAhxOrkxgR6a
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,117Please respect copyright.PENANAHmmJ6YNQs6
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。117Please respect copyright.PENANAoXHH0U50AT
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不過,117Please respect copyright.PENANANqWyV7scSp
鍾仁宇更大的錯,117Please respect copyright.PENANAKdXJdl4A7z
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,117Please respect copyright.PENANAybOCgfZKkX
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,117Please respect copyright.PENANAF0qGIEv6Yt
反而令到感情生活更豐富。117Please respect copyright.PENANAzrzARg4Ffi
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,117Please respect copyright.PENANAzjue9AB1f1
又怎會落得被利用的下場?117Please respect copyright.PENANAozGOhmyIzW
117Please respect copyright.PENANAkqjw7sFHmS
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,117Please respect copyright.PENANAEOAAkz9xCn
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,117Please respect copyright.PENANAZc58YTyUDU
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,117Please respect copyright.PENANArs4iXZMw0P
我無十分認真看過這電影,117Please respect copyright.PENANAI8X4Lx78R5
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。117Please respect copyright.PENANAM46Z3MwuMr
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。117Please respect copyright.PENANAczF1ALyzBm
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讀者們,117Please respect copyright.PENANAduZucgkXeV
如果你是鍾仁宇,117Please respect copyright.PENANAl7TUJWg0PZ
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?117Please respect copyright.PENANAu5FuP7xBoO
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》117Please respect copyright.PENANA6EHHTJhAC1
戀愛心理,第四回。