今天久違的去女僕店~37Please respect copyright.PENANAtLs1GKtsYK
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,37Please respect copyright.PENANA6nwUnmJE5X
以至於我今天臨時改題目。37Please respect copyright.PENANAHUlxDe4YXL
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,37Please respect copyright.PENANA36ItGwMZ2B
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,37Please respect copyright.PENANAB4MoEV3u2W
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,37Please respect copyright.PENANAee4XkBgadE
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...37Please respect copyright.PENANAZLvhxPKhae
第一次是當著我的面前,37Please respect copyright.PENANAPPqS7O70Bs
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANAkz99mDCqDP
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...37Please respect copyright.PENANAybiBDzyS1M
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...37Please respect copyright.PENANAuym9dE1PdS
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,37Please respect copyright.PENANAV92asyCJnL
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,37Please respect copyright.PENANAuVsls03cln
因為發生得太快了,37Please respect copyright.PENANAsnzQvlqzou
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANAMRNKzPANmm
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...37Please respect copyright.PENANAKajdtGp1rr
讓我傷心的是,37Please respect copyright.PENANADqdaQU7Bsl
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,37Please respect copyright.PENANAuR1K91sOKH
其他都是男客人。37Please respect copyright.PENANAkOwFO45vR1
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,37Please respect copyright.PENANAEWZN3I041j
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANAIXZqAv9WI2
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...37Please respect copyright.PENANA4kGFKUoxiQ
因為是背對著我的動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANAUiG7k7gPGz
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,37Please respect copyright.PENANAahaM4AolyP
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,37Please respect copyright.PENANA4akqKklNDX
但我覺得即使是女僕,37Please respect copyright.PENANALxSzDL6ii8
以服務主人為名義,37Please respect copyright.PENANAJk0RUFoyuu
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。37Please respect copyright.PENANAE93ODK8TeW
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:37Please respect copyright.PENANAQhSpFrTZDD
這就只是打情罵俏呀~37Please respect copyright.PENANAZhe6e19SX6
「這樣很可愛」37Please respect copyright.PENANAEKeSsghJc5
之類的...37Please respect copyright.PENANAJ2wzWBErhn
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,37Please respect copyright.PENANAxy3HTB4iji
相信不會有人說很可愛,37Please respect copyright.PENANA6R3jbAVteI
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...37Please respect copyright.PENANAItt3smpTDF
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,37Please respect copyright.PENANA5ZrmidgRxM
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...37Please respect copyright.PENANAFbBZP1VMZh
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...37Please respect copyright.PENANArCaVUe0t4U
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,37Please respect copyright.PENANA8PswQCXzYW
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...37Please respect copyright.PENANAqBeHnjiNJG
可是發生問題的當下,37Please respect copyright.PENANA0Sh5mLI0bV
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,37Please respect copyright.PENANAPglLYmbUyb
她說心情有被我影響...37Please respect copyright.PENANAeNE0MiwNBp
然而我跟她解釋,37Please respect copyright.PENANAqcASft29cj
我還是會去光顧~37Please respect copyright.PENANArtsQdp9xhd
因為說真的發生這種事情,37Please respect copyright.PENANAQ4g7OmMVGf
我如果出手,37Please respect copyright.PENANAxiNzxFJ86a
場面會很尷尬,37Please respect copyright.PENANARfiuC7ziwp
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...37Please respect copyright.PENANAx3UUFlOTLe
終究我只能安慰自己:37Please respect copyright.PENANAzMsEp0UjB0
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...37Please respect copyright.PENANA7L6SL4p0OZ
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,37Please respect copyright.PENANA0kx8JBRrMU
但是把事情跟二姊說,37Please respect copyright.PENANAxuIel1SCdD
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,37Please respect copyright.PENANA1cvlubrT7i
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,37Please respect copyright.PENANAgHOcrje2ZC
如果是學長的話,37Please respect copyright.PENANAG0I9nLyFk2
他會怎麼做呢?37Please respect copyright.PENANApkcl3aTAat
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,37Please respect copyright.PENANA16b2BzoXsp
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,37Please respect copyright.PENANAitWLpkGXgQ
我想第一種可能的做法是:37Please respect copyright.PENANAU6qGRE65le
學長可能會說:37Please respect copyright.PENANALPMJbmBeK0
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」37Please respect copyright.PENANAB6RdYMbD42
一方面是讓加害者知道,37Please respect copyright.PENANAepdaGMicWL
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,37Please respect copyright.PENANAjCdLueeDvU
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。37Please respect copyright.PENANAbnfVVz1wrM(有下次就把你送去性平會)37Please respect copyright.PENANAYCc1LIH0St
第二種可能的做法是,37Please respect copyright.PENANAL6cLcriPLT
事情發生後,37Please respect copyright.PENANAObE7e7ru3F
等Staff走遠,37Please respect copyright.PENANA6tYPON5vTk
學長會問女僕:37Please respect copyright.PENANArmFfB80SMC
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,37Please respect copyright.PENANATD3Ej0Mgs2
怕他傷到妳了~」37Please respect copyright.PENANA4kQdr2Ubtv
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。37Please respect copyright.PENANAfAEPzNPur3
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,37Please respect copyright.PENANAOEi9R680ID
也是讓女僕意識到,37Please respect copyright.PENANAKIBB0EXIKp
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,37Please respect copyright.PENANAnEN9MsjzZb
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...37Please respect copyright.PENANAeeniiMuGuI
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。37Please respect copyright.PENANAeqNlsA6Lhd
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,37Please respect copyright.PENANAGcHlvuYmTc
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,37Please respect copyright.PENANABrCDv19A7X
其實跟第二種的差別就是:37Please respect copyright.PENANAmSC4TVkPlL
改用寫的。37Please respect copyright.PENANAjvPrzSS7eC
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,37Please respect copyright.PENANAxuT9aVtIAH
用寫的話,37Please respect copyright.PENANAAyco2eayGW
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,37Please respect copyright.PENANAw85bHljJez
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,37Please respect copyright.PENANAUb0pwIWvtY
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),37Please respect copyright.PENANAaPxQhDeUmr
當然也可能微笑置之不理。37Please respect copyright.PENANAjv6XXyxLAN
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)37Please respect copyright.PENANA8EsIC4d4I6
總之,37Please respect copyright.PENANAUslPm5GPhd
客人也會心理不安,37Please respect copyright.PENANAvBml9hbdZF
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。37Please respect copyright.PENANABfdmMjxgbV
如果Staff有這種小動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANANhG7rD1nY9
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,37Please respect copyright.PENANAM10cRZhCqS
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)37Please respect copyright.PENANAJJuitO9Zb3
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,37Please respect copyright.PENANAGHt74mxInV
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...37Please respect copyright.PENANAP49K0YMr01
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,37Please respect copyright.PENANA6ordKYGOFc
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...37Please respect copyright.PENANAeVTgbojDvE
(會犯的人就是會犯)37Please respect copyright.PENANAQj6tKjSWUY
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,37Please respect copyright.PENANA5mkFOLwc22
比起只是在心裡想,37Please respect copyright.PENANAInzNtIRf9Y
也許有那麼一天,37Please respect copyright.PENANASIHiqc3kNA
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~37Please respect copyright.PENANAzSkQD3df6q
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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